Breastfeeding Tips from an (almost) Failed Breastfeeder

In the end, however you choose to feed your baby is right. It’s your decision. Don’t be bullied into thinking that breastfeeding is the only way or the wrong way, and same for formula feeding. Ya never know, this might be your first lesson in parenting: rolling with the punches, like it was for me.

Have you ever wanted something so much and thought about it endlessly, that when it finally is time for that thing to take place, and it doesn’t happen like you imagined or dreamed, you just feel like curling up and going back to sleep?

I’ve talked previously about the attempt to nurse my first and only, Josie, from day one. To recap, or if you haven’t read my previous blog (read it here) about why I care about helping moms – she just wouldn’t latch. Not kind of, not at all. My overwhelming love for her made her mad or something, I don’t know, and the doctors/nurses didn’t know either. We eventually got the hang of it with one another and I have breastfed her through 15 months old, so dreams do come true y’all. Keep on Reading!

Resort Traveling Tips with a 1 Year Old

The most common reaction I was getting from people when I told them about our trip to Mexico: “wait, you’re taking Josie?” Lil Bit goes wherever we take her. Have babe, will travel. Keep on Reading!

Ode to the Mommy Meltdown

So let’s take it all in stride. You are the best mama you can be, and I’m the best mama I can be. We run the world and nobody can take that away from us.

I’m not any busier that any other mom. I sometimes get to shower and sometimes I don’t. I sometimes get to work out and sometimes I don’t. My hair is done, maybe, two days out of the week. Do I want to do these things? Sure, every single day, I want to. But I’m not having an emotional breakdown about it. Guess what? You shouldn’t either. Keep on Reading!

The Non-Baby Registry – What NOT to Buy

When building our baby registry, we started off with the little checklist from the baby store. Guess what, they provide this list so they sell moreΒ stuff. Many of these items are just stuff and your baby may or may not use it. Keep on Reading!

New Mom Resources

The best advice I can provide is to not spend a lot of time searching online for why your baby has awful gas or if your baby has a weird shaped head. Everything in moderation. In hindsight, talking to other moms was really what helped me out.

But let’s be real. Google is at our fingertips and it’s hard to stay off the internet when you’re wondering about the color of your kid’s poop. Keep on Reading!

Read This First: We’ll Get Through This Together

Take a deep breath, cry if you need to, and consider connecting with someone online that is going through the same thing you are.

Frustration, defeat, and self-blame. This is how it goes for a lot of new moms. Although I wouldn’t have admitted it at the time, at 3 weeks postpartum, I was losing it. My baby would. not. latch. despite my plan to breastfeed. I watched a mama in a restaurant stick her baby under her shirt and, like it was nothing, latch on and enjoy his supper. This was at my birthday dinner. All I could do was sit there, trying to hold it together. My feelings were hurt by my newborn and postpartum hormones were raging. Why couldn’t we have that natural connection? I was having to pump to keep up my supply on top of bottle feeding her formula (which is great if that is your personal plan, but it wasn’t mine). Then at 3 weeks old, my little baby that called all the shots decided to latch. In that time, I had seen three lactation consultants, including one that told me it just wasn’t in the cards for us, read all the articles and books, talked to family members about their experiences, etc. The online searches provided me with two rationales: “you should give up because it’s just not happening for some babies,” or “you’re not doing good enough for your baby if you use formula.” I spent countless hours online reading horror stories about some moms and their negative experiences with breastfeeding.

Josie continues to be a healthy, happy kid and no Google search was telling me that. The postpartum brain doesn’t need that extra stress and worry. Instead, we need support and positivity. Our generation has the opportunity to create and hone a strong community of support. We should take advantage! Even those of us who are lucky enough to have the support of a partner, family, and friends would benefit from this type of community. I encourage conversation and recommendations about all topics found in this blog!

I have always been a helper. The best parts of my day include soothing Josie when she’s crying. I occasionally miss the days of working in customer service for that sheer feeling of helping someone achieve a goal, find the perfect home, etc. My life is, and will continue to be, dedicated to helping other people in as many ways as I can. Mix that with a need to create, craft, bake, organize, eat, workout every few days so I can continue to complete the prior task, and you get me.

So. If one new mama, mom to-be, wife, daddy, brother, or what have you, finds this blog to be helpful, then my job is done. Take a deep breath, cry if you need to, and consider connecting with someone online that is going through the same thing you are. And then put on your big girl pants, cuz damnit, you are strong and we will get through this.